How Do I Handle The Stress From Job Loss

Glass Of WaterA psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers ranged from 8 oz to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter.  It depends on how long I hold it.

“If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm.

“If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed.  In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens.

Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

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This is from the Science Is Madness Facebook page, if you’re into science and want to follow them.  This message about carrying your stresses over time is so perfect for Survive Succeed Soar followers I had to share it with you “As Is”.

I’m always asked this question, “How do I handle the stress from job loss?”  This article about carrying stress for long periods is very true.  But I do find that for those that have been laid off from work or handed our pink slips outright, the stress a little different.

  • First, you are paralyzed with shock.
  • Second, you must gather yourself together emotionally and get control of your fear in order to tell your family.
  • Third, there is a self-inflicted guilt from telling your loved ones you can’t provide for them right now.
  • Fourth, there is the stress of trying to find another job or generate some type of income yourself to feed, clothe and provide a warm and safe home for your family.
  • Fifth, the longer it takes to get money rolling in again, the more paralyzed you become with fear.
  • Sixth, the depression eventually sets in and you feel your self-worth is lost forever.
  • Seventh, you begin to withdraw from family and friends as you lose hope.

That does sound pretty dire and it certainly can be. That’s why it’s imperative that you start generating income as soon as possible.  That is the magic roadblock that will stop this emotional assault.  If you don’t get that done quickly, those negative and destructive emotions will continue to attack your mental and physical well-being.  Plus, aside from yourself and your emotions, you honestly DO need to provide for your spouse and children.  Perhaps you even have grandchildren or elderly parents that depend on your assistance and support.

The secret is to analyze your talents and experience and start an income stream yourself.  Most of us have a difficult time doing that.  We can’t be honest with ourselves.  We don’t know where to start.  We don’t know how to get free advertising. We don’t know how to see our talents clearly.

That’s where I come in – for FREE!  I will do a FREE STRATEGY CALL with you and together we’ll come up with some ideas to get you generating income within just a few days or weeks right where you are.

If you are receptive to some help, just put your name and email in the box to the right.  I’ll be in touch right away and we’ll pick a convenient time for you and I to talk strategy and brainstorm ideas. My goal is to stop the assault before it hits #4 and get you earning some money again quickly.

So I’m here for you!  Just put your contact information in the box to the right.  Do it NOW, that is your first step back to success!

To your rebirth, recreation and new successful lifestyle,

SherieJan2015SuperMiniSherie Smith

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